I just had a short chat with my friend based in China. She was updating me about her stint in Shanghai. To respect her privacy, I will not mention any details about.
We were reminiscing about the things she wanted in life before, that she doesn't like to happen now. However, It is now me who likes those things she wanted before that she doesn't like currently. In short, we seemed to exchange plans and goals.
What could be the reason why we suddenly changed our minds and goals in life? It is mainly because of EXPERIENCES.
I can say that I had the same experience with this friend of mine, at least for the career matters. We were actually together when we were assigned in Indonesia, away from our families and loved ones. We have much different goals then. She wanted to leave while I wanted to stay.
This time, it was totally different. She wanted to stay, I wanted to leave! hehe! These are because of all the experiences we had in the past few years. It's not just probably the career experience but the totality of the experiences we faced in life. This includes family experiences, experiences with friends, experiences outside the country, meeting other people, knowing other culture, and even experiences in love life! Of course, influence could also be have a big impact but these influences could also be considered as experiences... experiences from meeting very influencial people, probably! :)
Thus, experience really plays an important role in the decision making of a person. It affects your goals and dreams. It affects your aspirations and your plans for the future.
This is the main reason why people change---because they learn from their experiences, thus they need to change for something better, or at least try out another way to check if it would do better.
With our discussion, we ended up with 2 statements:
- It really is important to experience many things in life because it is only when you will be able to determine if you will like it or not.
- Experiences mold you and makes you realize what you really wanted in life.
The best line would be "Experience is the best teacher, so we must learn from our experiences!" Hmmm... something to think about...
-maron-
16october2008
22:47 hrs
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